Rituals in Death
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I picked lot of things from my grandfather, including a love for books. In death, he offered me some bits about the death rituals of Kashmiri Pandits. He also gave me a fear. Although he read a lot, he remembered little. And in the end he forgot everything. Because I too forget, I write...
Daddy and Badi Mummy clearing snow. Winter 1988. Srinagar. |
With his youngest daughter-in-law and youngest grandchild. 21, July 2013. Jammu |
Mourning: the house is essential
divided into two parts. One section for women and one for men. Frequent
wailing sounds can be heard for women's side. In the men side there is
mostly talk of bitter sweet past, sorry present and doomed future.
5th August. 2013. Shakti Nagar Cremation Ground, Jammu. |
We go to the cremation ground to collect his bones and ashes. Among the bones is a bone known among Pandits as Porush (Man). It is part of upper vertebral column. The bone holds a special meaning as in its shape it is said to resemble a sleeping man, a symbol of departed body. While placing the body on pyre special care is taken by putting in in right posture to ensure that the Porush remains intact after burning.
Cleaning of the spot by sons |
The spot as it is left by locals of Jammu - the Hindu Dogras |
The spot as it is left by Pandits. Honey, sweets and candy is left (possibly so that ants can do rest of the cleaning) |
White radish or Mooli is an absolute essential part of the 5th day ceremony and is a must offering for the departed on this day. |
Mahakal Bhairava and his dog (s) at Cremation Ground |
Prasadh at the end of the ceremony. Walnut. |
Day 10.
The departed is a Preta till it becomes a Pitr on completion of all the rites and joins the realm of previous Pitrs. A process that takes a year. The main rituals last for 13 days. There are talks among Kashmiri Pandits that 13 is becoming too difficult to manage. Working people can't be home for 13 days, that it should be reduced to 4. But the old guards and priests don't agree.
Garuda Purana is remembered and recited.
Evening feast. The Pandit ji also eats meat. |
Day 11. Army is out on the streets. The cook doesn't come. Aunts take charge of cooking. |
When the last ceremony is over and the Pandit ji leaves, a token pebble is thrown at him as he crossed the main gate...probably so that he does not return soon.
In none of these ceremonies is my grandmother involved. She was married to the man for about 64 years.
The entire city is shut. Early morning, I start out on a long walk to airport with father to catch my flight out of a trishanku'ian town.
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January 17, 2014
It's been six months. Today, we cook fish in dinner, offer it to the dead and feast. Pandits call it the day of 'ti
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